My heart has been in Charleston for 8 years. I love this city and the people I’ve met along the way. When I think back to my first year as a shy, naive freshman at CofC, I am stunned as to how much I’ve not only changed, but learned about myself. First and foremost, I learned that there is no specific timeline to figuring out what you want in life. We all run our own race, at our own pace. Some of us have everything planned out to a “T”, while others struggle with finding out who they are and what they have to offer in this world. I also realize that people have the same dreams, desires, and needs, and it can be intimidating with millions of other people out there working for the same thing. It’s not easy…and with social media having such a huge impact on our lives, it is no wonder we feel like we are not up to par. At that point, we either give up and settle for what we can get, or we push through the fear of the unknown and welcome knowledge with open arms.
This brings me to my next insight: choose your time wisely and spend it with people who lift you up. This is probably a no brainer to most, but easier said than done. We all have friends with whom we share a strong history and have been a part of our lives longer than most, but many of these relationships are emotionally draining. This has been one of the hardest lessons I’ve learned: It is okay to cut ties with old friends. It doesn’t mean we don’t care for them or don’t want what’s best for them; It just means we have grown apart. I realize it is so true that we attract what we give out to the world, so when I find myself in an unknown environment, I try to match my vibrational energy to what I desire to establish in my life. That means I want people in my life that match my lifestyle and values. The more you experience the feeling of having what you want, the more likely you are to keep it. You have the power to manifest anything your heart desires; nobody holds you back but you.
The last two things I’m going to mention are love and gratitude. Love is a flowing energy of light. It is smooth, gentle, patient, uplifting, and kind. When you radiate love and kindness, you open doors of endless opportunities. Change is inevitable and we can either choose to accept opportunities and see where it takes us, or we can stay stagnant in our daily lives, settling for what we already have. Failure is not something to fear. Failure gives us an opportunity to try again, to grow through lessons learned. The only thing to fear is giving up and not trying.
It’s easy to feel grateful when things are going your way, but it is harder to feel grateful when you’re not where you want to be or with whom you want to be or longing for something that you don’t yet have. Many people desire material things and are grateful for what they have which is fine, but always recognize and appreciate what is right in front you…the simple joys that we often take for granted.
Five years removed from college, I now “sort of” know what I want to do with my life. What’s more important though is that I am certain about the kind of person I want to be. I want to be kind and generous and I want to share my love of health with everyone around me.